I don't know if it's molars coming in (why not just blame the teeth?!) or a strong willed child or a second child/girl thing or something else, but Charley is knocking me on my butt these days!
When we are out and about and with people, she is awesome. Little Miss Social loves to be around people! But when we are home and just doing our thing, it's hard. She gets bored semi-easiliy (as do most toddlers) and needs constant scene changes. No biggie, but when you have another kid and housework to do, that makes it a little tough. She also LOVES to bug her big brother. She knows just what gets him (scratching him and hitting him is her number one form of offense), and she loves to mess with his animals, take his toys/food/drink/clothes and run off with them taunting him.
If I am not holding her, she is crying/screaming. If I am holding Jay/taking him to the bathroom/playing with him, she is screaming/crying. If I am holding her but not doing exactly what she wants to do, she is screaming/crying.
I am serious- this little lady has thrown me for a loop! For the first time in my life with kids, I feel like I'm a total loss with what to do!
TODDLERS ARE TOUGH.
I don't feel like Jay was this tough as a toddler (I know, he's still a toddler, and honestly, I still feel like he's a jillion times easier than CK). He's a pleaser, he's a rule follower, he's sensitive and caring- he never initiates a hit/fight, etc... If we tell him no he usually cries- not because he's mad we are stopping him from doing something wrong, but because he has let us down and his feelings are hurt. This kid is easy.
CK, on the other hand... If we tell her no she busts into full out tantrum mode. She get M-A-D! This chick can throw one.
I know that there were tough times with Jay. Of course, he's so easy right now that I just don't really remember them, but I know he had his moments. On one hand, he was a TOUGH infant. Until about 8 months of age- he was tough. Crying, high needs, rocking/holding/sucking/nursing, screaming... oh, and don't forget that he refused a bottle. Charley was a dream baby. Go with the flow, slept when she could, happy and content, ate anything anywhere anytime... I actually said when she was about four months old, "If I could have 'em all like her, I'd have a dozen more!" Boy, that's funny now!
So I guess what I've learned is that every kid has their deal. Just because you think "that mom" has it together with her kids- there is something that is tough about each and everyone of them. I can promise you that (even if they don't admit it!!).
I'm still trying to figure out Charley Kate and what makes this precious girl tick. I also need to step back and think what I am doing as a parent that is making it worse (not giving her enough warning/time before changing activities, spending more engaging time with her when she starts getting restless (put the laundry up- it can wait!!), stepping back and actually teaching her (like I had the time to do with Jay) instead of just letting her pick things up...). There is SO much I can be doing better. I just know it.
Today I worked really hard at the above things- really really focused on Charley and her needs and the things I did when it was just Jay and me. This was much easier because Jay was at school and then had a friend over- so I could really put a lot of energy into Charley. And you know what? It was her/our best day in THREE WEEKS!
So, note to self, Mom... get your act together and make some changes. These last three weeks sure haven't been working for you.